Unworthiness Keeps Us On Track

Just as "We can have anything we want, we just can't have everything we want," so, too, we are worthy of anything we want, we just may not be worthy of everything we want.

Why? Unless our list of wants is truly meager, or, unless we plan to live forever, we simply don't have the time to fulfill them all. (More on this later in the chapter, You Can Have Anything You Want, You Just Can't Have Everything You Want.)

Say we want to be a lawyer (God knoweth why, but let's suppose for the sake of an example we do), we commit to being a lawyer, and begin actions toward becoming a lawyer. One day, if we think, "I'd like to be a doctor," we might feel unworthiness. While studying law, the part of us that feels unworthy to be a doctor is accurate.

It's not that we wouldn't be a good doctor, or that we're not smart enough, or anything else — it's just that we chose something else, something else that takes a lot of time, money and perseverance. The sense of unworthiness about being a doctor keeps us on the lawyer track.

Even if we did declare a double-major — the nightmare of the insurance industry — and were (very) busy becoming an M.D., Esq., then feelings of unworthiness about being a nuclear physicist would be accurate. Even if we declared a triple major... well, you get the idea.

Somewhere along the line, our plate will be full. At that time, everything not on our plate we are unworthy of. When it's full, the way to create worthiness for more is to clear a spot on the plate.

Someone who is already a lawyer could feel more worthiness about becoming a doctor than someone who is still in law school. A practicing lawyer, as compared to a law student, has more time, more experience, and lots more money.

When you know your dream, know that you are worthy of that dream. Tell yourself you are worthy of that dream. Program that worthiness in. (Lots of techniques for that later.) Act upon that worthiness. Be content knowing that your dream is yours, and accept that everything that's not your dream is not yours.

Worthiness and unworthiness keep us on our path. It is our path. We selected it — it leads to our dream. Unworthiness is a friend that says, "Your path is this way, not that way."

If we listen and move back onto our path, we feel worthy again. If we continue to stray, we will continue to feel unworthy until we (A) get back on the path, or (B) choose another dream and another path. If we do the latter, and then attempt to get back on the "old" path, unworthiness will remind you, "This is not your path anymore."

Seen in this way the feeling of unworthiness is better described as humility. We know what we want, we know the direction we're going, we know that we are entitled to our dream, and we let the rest of the goals go by.

Humility comes with maturity. Children want this and this and this and this and that — practically everything they see, smell, touch or hear. Many adults do the same thing with goals — "I want a career and a marriage and children and a house and a car and save the whales and stop pollution and write a book and find God. Then, next week, I want..."

It's little wonder that unworthiness is what these people fear the most and hide from the most; they feel unworthy — accurately so — quite often.

We'll talk soon about how to select which dreams to pursue, and which to consider "good ideas I might get to someday." (In other words, which you choose to be worthy of and which you do not.)

Remember — the choice of which to be worthy is yours.

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